Sunday, February 21, 2016

Stephen Brown

Stephen Brown

I went through a box of pictures, letters and memories tonight that I have not gone through in years. Maybe decades. You wouldn't believe some of the silly, really silly and touching memories I found.

And then I found this picture of my boots.   Big smile. This picture brought back a really fun memory spent with Steve Brown.



Who would ever imagine having one of those crazy ideas to go catch rays in the middle of January, in the Sierras, with Beach Chairs, Fudge Stripe Cookies and Nestea Sweet Ice Tea over looking Highway 80?

Me neither. But for some silly reason we thought of it, and we did it.

We drove up Highway 80 in his restored '69 (?) Chevy Nova. It was a beautiful sunny day and we found a spot to park that overlooked the highway. We laughed at how cool we must look to everyone headed to the ski resorts: us in beach chairs, shirts off, like we were getting a tan at Folsom Lake.
Music cranked, all kinds of snacks.

It was all fun and games until Steve couldn't find his car keys.

We were sitting in about a foot of snow at least 300 feet from his parked car.  His keys were nowhere to be found. We were about 2 hours from home. Suddenly, it didn't feel so warm and sunny any longer.

This was long before cell phones. This was long before our parents confirmed where their children were. Long before where we weren't where we told them we were... right?

We never found his keys in the snow.  Here's where Steve became super human in my eyes. He jogged two miles down Highway 80 to a gas station and called a friend of ours. Collect.
He jogged about 1.5 miles back and stopped.

He then turned around and jogged the 1.5 miles back to the pay phone to tell Grant not to come.

 And then Steve jogged 2 miles back up the mountain to me.

Why? Because Steve heard a jingling as he was jogging...

Turns out Steve had a hole in his coat pocket and the keys had found their way through that hole and around to his back, to the bottom hem of his coat...

Two things about this story make it special to me:

A. Steve was super human running up and down the highway in the Sierras. And yet he laughed at the whole situation, relieved he found his keys and saved Grant a trip 2 hours to come save our asses. I would have been ripshit at God, Fate and my entire life.

B. No Alcohol was involved. Steve didn't drink. And this was one of those crazy fun times where you'd think drinking would be involved, and it wasn't. I think about that part a lot.  We had a blast, and no drinking was involved.

Before I say the next part, I want to say that I think about this memory a lot. It helped define FUN in my life. It is possible that Crazy Fun doesn't need alcohol, just a silly idea.

But here's the next part:

Steve Brown was later killed by a drunk driver.

Steve was one of those really amazing human beings.
I can't believe he's gone.

I drove down Greenback one rainy day and looked up at the the cemetery. In the pouring rain, I saw a figure hunched over Steve's grave. It broke my heart.  It still does. I can still picture it.

Steve really was all that.

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Sunday, February 14, 2016

Cupid's Arrow

Cupid's Arrow

What if ever a finger was waggled in my face and I was pushed into a cactus and screamed at, "You there! With that terrified look about your face! What do you love about me?!"

What, oh dear Lord, would come out of my mouth?

Immediately flashing before my eyes would be her radiant glow, her sweet perfect skin; her pinky finger that looks so much like my Grammy's that I knew we were destined to be together, or maybe it would be her North Grovernordale innocence...

But most likely I would panic and say something like, "You cook good chicken." And I would say it frighteningly out loud.

I'd remind her how cute she is when she wakes up at 6am and asks in all seriousness, "What are you in the mood for? With that certain smile on her face.  You know, for dinner?"

And then I'd tell her I love how articulate that she is, especially when she recites back a dream from that night where I am wearing a harlequin romance pleated shirt and am sword fighting the entire Gustapo of a third world country to protect her chastity.

(When in comparison, when asked about MY dream, I'd barely half remember a dream about being naked in a mine shaft with Julia Roberts on a crowded bus with a lot of chickens...?)


OK. Let's be honest. It's been sixteen years... My increasingly huge shiny bald spot... My belly blubber that makes the children squeamish on the beach... My ever increasing stubbornness to which I have no defense but will defiantly deny to my death... (And to the end of Eternity.) I don't get ego-boosters anymore from bikini-clad super models with big '80's hairstyles... Yes, Gawd I miss the 80's.

Truth be told, I am sporting a rather soft 50 rather than 40 and even though I feel nearer to 30 than 40, I'm no catch. Finances suck. I have man boobs. A farmer tan. And soon enough I'm gonna have toenails like that lady I used to make fun of at the health food store...

Reality. We are so caught up in daily stuff - daily responsibilities and that ever-exhausting struggle to tread water. We have kids. Bills. Laundry. A leaky front passenger tire. Homework. We are exhausted. I sleep for maybe 5 hours a night on the couch and struggle for another 2. We leave for work in the dark and come home in the dark. We rely on Daycare and Extended Day Care.

OK, back to the cactus...

I was driving to work the other morning and I saw two people kissing. It wasn't like this gross sloppy porno kissing - it was this gripping, hold-on-to-me-I-am-going-to-miss-you-today-like-it-will-feel-like-forever kind of kiss that lasted just long enough to make me look away in fear of drooling, er, I mean driving into telephone pole. Remember those kisses?


I want to fall in love again.

I'll say it again...I want to FALL in love again. Remember that? Falling in love?



As I drove further, I prayed to whomever is responsible for hearing those lonely, heartache prayers: "I want to fall in love again. I want to have that feeling back again...."

It's kind of like the same prayer we say to our Lottery God, right?

And here's where it got kinda weird...

Without hesitation, this calm came over me and simply put, the one and only person minus Julia Roberts or Cher or Heather Locklear or Dolly Parton or Kate Hudson or Angie Harmon or Eva Mendez or Selma Hyack or Debra Harry or Kathleen Turner (but only the Kathleen Turner from the early '80's in Body Heat) that I would ever want to fall in love with, was...

Michele.

Michele? The one with one L?

Crazy, huh?!


As I sit here typing this, completely in another room from her while she is watching an episode of Law and Order for the 69th time... I find myself wanting to be nowhere else than right there with her...feeling her warmth, her silky pajamas, her every cell.... of all the people... Her.

What is it about her?

So, what if I think about this Valentine's Day as a chance to embark on a new journey?

A journey starting right now, on Valentine's Day, to FALL in love with my wife again?


Think of this post as Cupid's first shot?






Oh God, what do I do? Do I even remember how to be all sappy and romantic?!?

Talk about pressure...

Do you think I could win her over again before the Red Sox win their next World Series?


Happy Valentine's Day, Bum Bum. I love you. And our family.


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Tuesday, February 9, 2016

The Golden Anchor

Pretty proud of this humble kid.
Matthew was chosen The Student of the Month.
I thought it might of been for his class, or maybe 2nd Grade, but no! For the School!

Just had a real nice Parent-Teacher Conference.

He never made a big deal about it.

Was happy he got a donut, he said.

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

Sunday FunDay ZooDay

Sunday FunDay at Jacksonville Zoo
January 31, 2016



Free Hugs.



Peace. Tranquility. Fatherhood.



Black and White.
Or is it White and Black?
Hi Nana.



The artistic Blue trees were amazing!



This one is for you, Kathy!
Asian Gardens.
(While you are travelling Asia) 



Watercolors



Dad! Dad! Dad!



OK. I count 27 Vultures. AT A ZOO. Am I the only one alarmed by this?
Zookeeper: "Hey, it's been a while. Has anyone seen the Water Buffalo?"



There was a pretty cool new Australian Exhibit where you could feed the birds from a cup of nectar.
David learned that birds actually have tongues.
He's 11.
There are some things in life that I never realized that I had to tell my children...



This is for you, Mom!



Lazing On a Sunday Afternoon, Queen



Having an A-Mazing good time!

I love these boys.

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I was About to Post a Blog about the Zoo and then Found this Unpublished Draft from 6 Years Ago.... So....

First, the Zebra's Butt Picture



David was the quiet one at a birthday party of 6 kids at the Zoo. Five girls and one boy.

Until he yells out to anyone; anyone who has a camera, "HEY! Take a picture of that Zebra Butt for my Nana!!"

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